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How To Support an Endo Warrior

One of the most important things you can do on this earth is to let people know they are not alone. - Shannon L. Alder
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Living with endometriosis can be an incredibly challenging journey, not only for the warriors themselves but also for their loved ones. Supporting and loving someone with endometriosis can be both rewarding and challenging. It's crucial for the loved ones of those with endometriosis to seek guidance and understanding to navigate the complexities of this condition effectively. The role of friends, family members, partners, medical practitioners, employers, and colleagues in providing support and understanding is crucial.


Knowing they have a strong support system can alleviate feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression commonly experienced by endo warriors. Genuine support fosters a sense of belonging, comfort, and emotional well-being. When endo warriors have support from their loved ones, they are more likely to feel empowered to seek proper medical care. Having a strong support system can help them navigate the healthcare system, find knowledgeable medical professionals, and make informed decisions about treatment options.


The journey with endometriosis can be emotionally and physically draining. Supportive loved ones can provide the encouragement and motivation needed to persevere during challenging times. By offering a shoulder to lean on and celebrating small victories, you contribute to their resilience. Also, validating the experiences of an endo warrior through support sends a powerful message that their pain and struggles are real. This validation reduces self-doubt and helps them feel more confident in advocating for their needs. And I say this from personal experience.


Without a support system, endo warriors may feel isolated, misunderstood, and alone in their battle. This isolation can intensify feelings of depression, anxiety, and frustration. This lack of support can negatively impact the mental health of endo warriors. Without the understanding and empathy of loved ones, they may struggle to seek professional help and support for their emotional well-being.


A lack of support may also discourage endo warriors from seeking proper medical care or speaking up about their symptoms and concerns. This can delay diagnosis and limit access to appropriate treatment options. Without support, endo warriors may shoulder the emotional burden of their illness alone. This can lead to increased stress, emotional exhaustion, and feelings of being overwhelmed. This just comes to show that support from loved ones can have a profound impact on the well-being and resilience of an endo warrior.


Read on as I explore the vital role that loved ones play in supporting someone with endometriosis, by providing a list of the top 10 things you can do to make a difference.

  1. Educate Yourself: Take the time to educate yourself about endometriosis. Read reliable sources, attend support groups, and engage in conversations with medical professionals. Understanding the condition empowers you to provide informed support and validates the experiences of the endo warrior.

  2. Listen and Validate: Create a safe space for open communication and actively listen without judgment. Validate their experiences, acknowledging the pain and challenges they face. Offer empathy, understanding, and a compassionate ear to help them feel heard and supported.

  3. Be Empathetic: Endometriosis can be physically and emotionally draining. Practice empathy by putting yourself in their shoes and imagining the daily struggles they face. Show compassion and support through words and actions, emphasising that their pain is real and not imagined.

  4. Advocate for Proper Medical Care: Accompany your loved one to doctor's appointments, if they feel comfortable, and advocate for their needs. Help them find medical professionals who specialise in endometriosis and are knowledgeable about the latest treatment options. Encourage them to seek second opinions if necessary.

  5. Offer Practical Support: Assist with daily tasks, household chores, or childcare when they are experiencing pain or fatigue. Small gestures like preparing meals, running errands, or offering a helping hand can alleviate their physical and emotional burden.

  6. Be Flexible and Understanding: Understand that their symptoms may fluctuate, making it challenging to commit to social events or work obligations. Be flexible with plans and show understanding if they need to cancel or reschedule. Adaptability and patience are key in supporting an endo warrior.

  7. Validate Their Emotions: Endometriosis can cause emotional distress, including anxiety, depression, and feelings of isolation. Validate their emotions and encourage them to seek professional help if needed. Remind them that their emotions are valid and that they are not alone in their journey.

  8. Stand Against Gaslighting: Unfortunately, some endo warriors experience gaslighting, where their pain and experiences are dismissed or minimised by others. Stand firmly against gaslighting and advocate for their needs, both within medical settings and in personal relationships. Help them find medical professionals and support networks that validate their experiences.

  9. Encourage Self-Care: Promote self-care practices that prioritise their physical and emotional well-being. Encourage them to engage in activities that bring them joy, practice relaxation techniques, and seek support from therapists or support groups specialising in chronic illnesses.

  10. Raise Awareness and Support Research: Join forces in raising awareness about endometriosis and advocating for better understanding, research, and treatment options. Participate in fundraising events, share informative resources, and support organisations dedicated to advancing endometriosis awareness and research.


Remember, endometriosis affects not only the individual living with the condition but also those who care for and support them. By seeking guidance and understanding, you can provide the necessary support, cultivate empathy, and build a resilient and loving foundation that helps both you and your loved one navigate the challenges of endometriosis together. I count myself very lucky, as I have a really great support system, from my Sunshine (husband), to my furbaby, to my siblings and mum, to my dear friends, church community, doctors and colleagues. I don't take any of them for granted, ever.


On the other hand, the absence of support can exacerbate feelings of isolation, hinder medical advocacy, and contribute to emotional burden. Let's stand united, raising awareness, fostering understanding, and offering unwavering support to endo warriors, as we work towards a world where their pain is acknowledged, their voices are heard, and they are embraced with compassion and love.

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