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Surgery Day: The Drama, The Win and That Final Moment

What really counts are good endings, not flawed beginnings. - Ibn Taymiyyah
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Three weeks ago, on Tuesday, 8 August, I embarked on a journey that would mark a significant chapter in my battle with endometriosis. The journey to the hospital was marked with a blend of hope and anxiety, as I embarked on a path that promised healing, transformation, and the long-awaited relief from the relentless grip of endometriosis. Accompanied by my husband and mother, we drove to the hospital in the wee hours of the morning, with dreams of a successful surgery, a brighter future, and a chance to regain control over my life.


Little did we know that this journey would be filled with a series of challenges that threatened to derail this crucial procedure. As we drove to the hospital, a mix of nervousness and hope filled the air. The destination: an expert excision surgery that had been long awaited, and one that held the promise of relief and healing.


Upon our arrival at the hospital, things initially appeared to be running smoothly. Thanks to Daniel's efficiency at the reception, I was admitted without any hiccups. The pre-surgery anticipation was tangible, as I lay in the hospital bed, wearing my sexy, backless hospital gown and compression stockings, ready to embrace the surgery that held the promise of change.


However, what should have been a straightforward process turned into a whirlwind of confusion and frustration. It was like a storm cloud looming over what was supposed to be a breakthrough moment. The atmosphere shifted from hopeful to tense when we were informed that a substantial payment of R110,000.00 was required before my surgery could proceed. This unexpected financial burden cast a cloud of uncertainty over the day, threatening to derail our carefully laid plans. The suddenness of the demand left us bewildered, questioning the validity and implications of this last-minute hurdle.


Our medical insurance was meant to cover most of the expenses, and we had already made the required down payment to the surgeon well in advance. The lack of communication from the hospital added to the confusion. Why hadn't we been informed of this beforehand? And why was this amount communicated verbally, without any supporting documentation or clarity on its purpose? It was as if we were caught in a whirlwind of miscommunication, and the impending surgery was hanging in the balance.


Determined not to let this chaos compromise my long-awaited surgery, my husband took charge and headed to the reception to seek clarity. Frustration and anxiety took over as we tried to make sense of the situation. Unwilling to let this ordeal shatter our hopes, I climbed out of my hospital bed, swapped my hospital gown for my tracksuit, and marched down to the reception. Tears of frustration filled my eyes as I confronted the confusion head-on. But even as we demanded clarity, the confusion persisted. It was a heart-wrenching experience – the uncertainty of whether my surgery, the culmination of weeks of anticipation, would be canceled yet again. I couldn't deal. I burst into uncontrollable tears right there and then, in the middle of the hospital reception area.


In the face of this turmoil, I made a decision: to gather myself with the help of my husband, wipe my tear-stained face and seek clarity from my doctor's practice, rather than the frustrating hospital reception. I would not let bureaucratic confusion rob me of my long-awaited moment of relief. Tearful and resolute, with a very puffy face, my husband's hand in mine and the determination to resolve this issue and proceed with the surgery I had been longing for, we marched to my doctor's rooms upstairs. This was my battle, and I was prepared to face it head-on and get things back on track.


The admin staff at the doctor's office became our lifeline. They were as perplexed by the situation as we were and were determined to resolve the issue. Their intervention was a beacon of hope, shedding light on the chaos that had nearly derailed my surgery. Their tireless efforts to untangle the situation gave us renewed strength to face the challenges that had unexpectedly surfaced. Through their help, we learned that the chaos had been caused by misinformation, mixed with some incompetence I'm guessing – the surgery was, in fact, ready to proceed. A ray of light broke through the clouds. The tension that had gripped us began to dissipate, and a sense of relief washed over us.


Tears welled up in my eyes yet again, as I extended heartfelt gratitude to the admin team who had stood by us during this tumultuous ordeal. Returning to my room, I slipped back into my hospital gown, the anticipation mingling with a newfound sense of relief. The weight that had momentarily threatened to crush our spirits had been lifted, replaced by a wave of calm. My mother's face, once etched with worry, now held a visible sense of relief. She had been waiting patiently in my hospital room, her concern evident but her faith steadfast. Not only had she been praying, but she was also fighting to remain calm, to ensure that her blood pressure didn't rise from the chaos. My husband's emotions remained a mix of relief and anger, a storm of feelings that drove him to seek solace in the fresh air outside. While he collected his thoughts, I was gently wheeled into the theatre, where the surgical team awaited my arrival. The tumultuous morning had faded into the background as the preparation for the surgery took precedence.


As I lay on the procedure table, surrounded by the surgical team and nursing staff, a sense of calm settled over me. The anaesthesia flowed through my body, and as my eyelids grew heavy, I was overcome by a wave of gratitude. Despite the hurdles, the drama, and the uncertainty, I was finally where I had longed to be, ready to embrace the transformation that lay ahead. I closed my eyes, knowing that this moment was a culmination of weeks and months of anticipation, advocacy, and unwavering determination.


I remember my body not wasting any more time, my eyes shutting slowly, yet so quickly, and me thinking to myself, "Finally!! Thank you, Lord." Then, darkness followed.


As I reflect on this experience, I am reminded that our battles, whether with endometriosis or the complexities of life, can be conquered with strength, perseverance, and a support system that stands by us. The surgery was not just any surgery; it was a testament to the strength that emerges from adversity, the power of advocacy, and the beauty of transformation. With gratitude for the team that saved the day and a renewed commitment to my healing, I look forward to the next chapter of my journey – one of recovery, transformation, and the pursuit of a life free from the shackles of endometriosis, even if temporary.


Signed

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